How unique we all are? ...We are all special.
Each one is unique in his or her own way.One may be a topper in school,one may be a 1st class singer,another may be a dancer,a thinker.One has no right to underestimate anybody or for that matter degrade anyone.There are some who become famous...but many who due to various reasons do not become famous,but are equally talented.
Why dont we let that uniqueness remain as such?Why do we always have to compare with the other person?This Comparision starts as early as from birth.
If the child is puny compare it with another which is chubby.If it starts talking late then you can hear someone saying that"My child started talking right from the time he was 7 months old"leaving the mother anxious.If he is naughty then say that he has become "asadu"and he has to become "samathhu' like his neighbour.
These type of comparisions can leave them feeling useless and frustrated in the long run.
My brother says that all the children are born intelligent and it is we who spoil them with our advice, anxiety,temper,comparision etc.Is it right on our part to do so?Children have to learn by themselves ..only thing is we should provide them with a safe environment.Let there be no comparision...no unhealthy comparisions.
You may ask me what is "Unhealthy Comparision'.When comparisions lead to unhealthy competitions and unnecessary rivalry then it becomes unhealthy. [a common situation in Tamil serials]...Still comparative method of study is famous in Administration
Woodrow wilson says"If I see a murderous person sharpening a knife cleverly,I can borrow his way of sharpening the knife without his probable intention to commit murder with it."This according to me is a nice way of learning new things.Here no one else does the comparision.It is we who do the study and incorporate what is good for us.
Each one is unique in his or her own way.One may be a topper in school,one may be a 1st class singer,another may be a dancer,a thinker.One has no right to underestimate anybody or for that matter degrade anyone.There are some who become famous...but many who due to various reasons do not become famous,but are equally talented.
Why dont we let that uniqueness remain as such?Why do we always have to compare with the other person?This Comparision starts as early as from birth.
If the child is puny compare it with another which is chubby.If it starts talking late then you can hear someone saying that"My child started talking right from the time he was 7 months old"leaving the mother anxious.If he is naughty then say that he has become "asadu"and he has to become "samathhu' like his neighbour.
These type of comparisions can leave them feeling useless and frustrated in the long run.
My brother says that all the children are born intelligent and it is we who spoil them with our advice, anxiety,temper,comparision etc.Is it right on our part to do so?Children have to learn by themselves ..only thing is we should provide them with a safe environment.Let there be no comparision...no unhealthy comparisions.
You may ask me what is "Unhealthy Comparision'.When comparisions lead to unhealthy competitions and unnecessary rivalry then it becomes unhealthy. [a common situation in Tamil serials]...Still comparative method of study is famous in Administration
Woodrow wilson says"If I see a murderous person sharpening a knife cleverly,I can borrow his way of sharpening the knife without his probable intention to commit murder with it."This according to me is a nice way of learning new things.Here no one else does the comparision.It is we who do the study and incorporate what is good for us.
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Interesting post. I know that comparisions, especially in childhood may often lead to really bad consequences. But don't you think that adults should stop reacting to comparisions? I mean, why care about what people say?
Hi,long time no post...yen?????
I was thinking about the adverse reaction on the child....not about how and why adults react to comparision.
When kids are compared, it's their parents who really are impacted. But it doesn't stop at that. Kids, when they grow up, are directly affected.
A mix of laziness, too many things on the mind and a lack of anything enlightening to say;) One suda suda post coming up soon.
Hi Lalitha,you are absolutely right.:)
Deepa,waiting eagerly for your post
done:)
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